Tip #8

Realize that one day the kids will be gone and whatever’s left needs to be strong, fun, and better than ever!

One big part of this is trying to stay healthy! I really don’t want to spend my retirement years on 50 medications way over weight unable to walk and grouchy all the time. The Bible says live life to the fullest! When the kids move out… We have RV/ plane ride plans!

Of course life happens and I am not condemning anybody with ailments at all! My poor sweet mom in law can’t stub her toe without breaking it… So, she’ll just have to ride along in the RV cause nothing’s slowing us down! LOL

All jokes aside, I joined a gym this year and have literally been working my bum off and eating a lot of lettuce! I want to be healthy and live a long life for my kids and look hot for my hubby! I also want to be strong and healthy enough to enjoy life and not get winded just walking up a couple of steps!

Today, I encourage you to do what you can to take care of yourself and to rekindle that flaming fire in your marriage. Maybe you can surprise your spouse with a new hair do… Make sure the surprise is a good one! LOL! Then sit down with your spouse and make some really cool goals for yourselves! If you really can’t go far because of Dr. appointments or family issues or job issues, make small but good plans! Drive to the beach for the evening and walk along holding hands or go out to your favorite restaurant for a nice dinner alone. It never too late to talk about your future together and its never too late to act on it!! Enjoy each other!!

Tip #7

The sayings of King Lemuel contain this message, which his mother taught him.
O my son, O son of my womb,
O son of my vows, do not waste your strength on women,
on those who ruin kings. It is not for kings, O Lemuel, to guzzle wine.
Rulers should not crave alcohol. For if they drink, they may forget the law
and not give justice to the oppressed. Alcohol is for the dying,
and wine for those in bitter distress. Let them drink to forget their poverty
and remember their troubles no more. Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves;
ensure justice for those being crushed. Yes, speak up for the poor and helpless,
and see that they get justice. Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?
She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her,
and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life. She finds wool and flax
and busily spins it. She is like a merchantโ€™s ship,
bringing her food from afar. She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household
and plan the dayโ€™s work for her servant girls. She goes to inspect a field and buys it;
with her earnings she plants a vineyard. She is energetic and strong,
a hard worker. She makes sure her dealings are profitable;
her lamp burns late into the night. Her hands are busy spinning thread,
her fingers twisting fiber. She extends a helping hand to the poor
and opens her arms to the needy. She has no fear of winter for her household,
for everyone has warm clothes. She makes her own bedspreads.
She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns. Her husband is well known at the city gates,
where he sits with the other civic leaders. She makes belted linen garments
and sashes to sell to the merchants. She is clothed with strength and dignity,
and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise,
and she gives instructions with kindness. She carefully watches everything in her household
and suffers nothing from laziness. Her children stand and bless her.
Her husband praises her: โ€œThere are many virtuous and capable women in the world,
but you surpass them all!โ€ Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;
but a woman who fears the LORD will be greatly praised. Reward her for all she has done.
Let her deeds publicly declare her praise. (Proverbs 31:1-31 NLT)

Today I encourage you to be a Proverbs 31 Husband or Wife! Be of noble character. Make your family your first ministry! It’s never too late! It is work! But, the rewards are great!!!

Tip #6

Be thankful! Hubby’s biggest complaint with me… That I can think of ๐Ÿ˜‰ was that I wasn’t thankful for things he did around the house and helping with the kids. I used to think… “thank you???!!!!” But, then God did something in my heart. It all goes back to the “work on yourself and allow God to do His work in your spouse” thing.

I realized that most men really don’t help around the house or with the children! Some wonderful wives and mothers are left to work, come home and cook, bathe the kids, put them to bed and fix their shackled mates plate and rub his stank feet ๐Ÿ˜‰

I truly am a very blessed woman!!! We both work, we share the family business, we share the kids, we share household duties, and we truly are a team!

I also noticed that when I started becoming genuinely more thankful for how wonderful my hubby is… He starting being more thankful towards me and for me as well!

Tonight I challenge you first to forgive me for posting so late ๐Ÿ˜‰ Then, and most importantly, I challenge you to be thankful for your spouse! Begin to show gratitude and be patient while you wait to see what happens. You will be amazed at the gratitude that will be returned to you!!

Tip #3

Yesterday I posted that we should work on ourselves and allow God to work on our spouse. And I made the comment that “this works”… Well, it does!! However this does not give us a “pray to get my way” card!

In working on ourselves, we have to actually give God permission to do His work in us! This means that sometimes… Just sometimes ๐Ÿ˜‰ we are going to be the ones whose hearts are changed! Sometimes it’s going to be me who is corrected by the Holy Spirit and who is being moved to apologize and make things right or compromise in certain situations.

Praying and allowing God to move on the heart of my spouse should only be done if you have heard from the Holy Spirit on a particular situation or you are so completely passionate about something and have peace about the decision you’ve made believing that it is the true and right will of God!

For instance, God spoke to me about homeschooling when My hubby was against it. I couldn’t go against my husband because He is the head of our house hold… And guess what? God already knows this because He designed it this way ๐Ÿ™‚ so… I said “God, if I have heard from you and you want this to happen, you need to be the one to talk to My hubby”. One week later hubby came to me and said “I think we’re supposed to home school!”.

On the other hand, when we were struggling at our former church God spoke to Hubby first. We had questioned some decisions that had been made for 5 or 6 years before we left. The last year we were there was not good at all and we were constantly praying For God to release us. I never felt the release until my hubby said “we’re done there”. Instantly, I felt a weight lift from me. I was more emotionally vested and it was harder for me to accept the answer, not to mention, hubby is the head of our household in every way. These are the reasons I believe God spoke to him first. But again, when He did, it was instant for me as well!

Today I encourage you to allow your husband to hear from God… Not to hear you moan, groan, and complain and fight. If you are the husband… Step up the prayer time! Seek the face of God. Hold your position as head of your household with conviction, love, kindness, gentleness, strength, and wisdom! The man is the head of the household, but He is also in partnership with His wife and most importantly should be in partnership with the Holy Spirit! Have a blessed Sunday!