The Truth About Me… And You.


Someone told me years ago that men really hate it when we talk about the things we dislike about our bodies.  As soon as I realized this, I stopped and this is why…

I realized that all he sees is the woman he loves.  When he looks into my eyes and smiles at me in the morning, I should smile back.  I shouldn’t be thinking about the sleep in my eyes from tossing and turning all night.  I shouldn’t be thinking about my breath, because I just woke up and haven’t had time to brush my teeth yet or my messy hair that’s literally monkey(ish) like. I should be thinking about how great he is to not care about all those things.  

 All he sees in me is the lady who he’ll spend the rest of his life with.  He just wants a kiss.  He wants my warmth and my effection before our day pulls us apart. 

When we swim or we’re alone, I shouldn’t call myself fat or point out my thighs that could stand a bit of lypo suction.  He sees beauty.  He sees me as Christ sees me.  It’s as if I’m Eve in the Garden of Eden all over again.  Beautiful, loved, wanted, desired, new every morning, exciting, and breathtaking to the man I love and who loves me.

So, why would I eat the apple? Why would I cause his eyes to open and see what I see when I look at me? Why would I want to ruin his vision of me by pointing out my flaws?  It’s as if we say “don’t love me, you could do better and this is why”. 

Ladies.  I have to tell you, YOU are beautiful just the way you are.  You are worthy of love as it should be, you are worthy of being admired by Jesus and your companion.  You are beloved.  You are also not alone.  Every single woman on this earth has areas they wish they could change.  We all have cellulite.  We are not Barbie Dolls.  We are not spray painted.  We are not photo shopped.  We are real and we are beautifully made in the image of Christ.

My husband’s love for me has caused me to believe that I am beautiful.  The bad thing is, it’s hard for me to stick to a diet because I don’t hate the way I look anymore. But the great thing is, I know I’m loved and desired by my husband, as it should be… And I don’t hate the way I look anymore.

In a world full of pornography and photoshopping, plastic surgery, and unhealthy unrealistic hopes for a woman’s outward appearance, it is imparitive that we find joy and love as Christ created it to be.  Love that is passionate between a man and his wife.  Joy in seeing each other for who we are and appreciating one another for the beauty God has placed within.

Proverbs 31: 29&30  

 “Many women have done excellently,

 but you surpass them all.”

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, 

 but a woman who fears the Lord is to 

be praised.

This is it right here! So be strong in the Lord and surpass them all.  Don’t pay attention to the world and their idea of beauty.  This is what beauty is, fearing the Lord and loving your family.

I want to add one more thing.  If you don’t have an amazing marriage, make your children know how amazing they are.  Show them, by complimenting yourself rather than bashing yourself.  Compliment them rather than becoming increasingly critical of their abilities and their outward appearance.  Show them what a strong Godly woman looks like.  She spends time with the Lord and she always directs her family back to Him.  There is a place for YOU in this story.  You are loved and you are worthy of this amazing Godly kind of relationship.  Show your children you believe these words.

Father, I thank you for helping me realize that I am beautiful because of you.  I am flawless in your eyes.  I am loved by you, I am precious to you even if to no one else. Help me take delight in your truth, the only truth.  Make me a Proverbs 31 woman.  Help me become more like you each day.  In Jesus name. Amen.

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