I’ve been on a quest to learn how to properly love people where they’re at. I want to truly show love without judgements while living according to the Word of God.
This isn’t very easy.
My heart’s desire is to please the Lord and not the world yet, I find myself always being mindful of the world and their thoughts of Christians and their preconceived judgments of us. So, how can we achieve love?
1. Argue respectfully. I just finished a 3 day homeschool Practicum for a new curriculum we’ll begin in August. This style of learning is called Classical Conversations and let me tell you, these conversations get you thinking for sure. One goal of “CC” is to teach our children to argue respectfully. This is something that should be taught in public schools and in homes all around the world. It’s ok if we don’t agree. There can still be love and we can still be friends. I’m not putting down other ways of learning. What I’m saying is that this should be a vital part of joining society, so teach all students everywhere how to argue respectfully. It would change the world!
2. Disagreeing is not unloving. This one gets my goat. I have to tell you something! Just because I don’t agree with your life choices DOES NOT mean that I don’t love you! See #3
3. We all are sinful. It is crucial that we as humans realize that we as humans are imperfect creatures and we all sin. We must stop looking at the outside and the life choices of others and the many voices we hear on a daily basis and say “I’m just like you and you and you and you.”
4. What’s the difference? If you call yourself a Christian the difference would be that you have accepted Christ in your heart and your mercies are new every morning. Notice I said heart. Someone’s relationship with Christ is a heart matter that can’t always be seen from the outside. Why can’t it be seen? You should be able to see the difference!! Most of the time, yes! You should see and hear a difference in speach, in attitude, in how and if they show love. You should see a difference in life choices and the way we live. We should live to honor Christ. But, just remember your behavior isn’t perfect all the time. The words that come out of your mouth aren’t perfect all the time and your life choices aren’t perfect all the time. So what is your level of judgment? Everyone… EVERYONE has one!
5. Hey! Non-Christian… Yeah YOU! If you read #4 and you see that I’m telling Christians not to be judgmental and I’m reminding them that we all sin, guess what! WE ALL SIN! Stop judging us. Really. Stop judging Christians. What’s the purpose? What does this do for you who don’t believe? If you truly don’t believe in God or sin or anything we stand for, then what’s the purpose?
6. Everyone T.H.I.N.K. : Is what I’m saying and believing True or Helpful? Will my words Improve something? Is it Necessary or is it Kind? YES, especially when we’re talking Bible! Come on people. Our mission is to share Jesus. So, let me ask you this. When someone shares a piece of pie with you, do they shove it in your face and scream “THIS is the BEST and ONLY pie ever, EAT IT!!!!!?” Umm No! Why then do we do this with the Bible or with our sin? Why do we work so hard to argue and fight uncontrollably over certain scriptures or certain sins to prove that what we choose is “okay”?
7. Sharing Jesus and Showing Love: So, how do we live in a sinful angry world full of liberal media and information overload? We live our lives with conviction and love. We offer Jesus like a sweet delicious piece of pie with perfectly browned flaky crust and fresh whipped cream on top. Then we walk away. You either plant a seed giving someone something to think about or you walk through how to accept Jesus in the heart for someone who’s ready and who wants him. Then you walk away and pray. We are NOT going to change people’s hearts! We can’t change this world. Only the one who lives in us can. Only Christ can offer conviction from the Holy Spirit and offer forgiveness of sin. Only Christ can mend broken hearts and heal the sick. Nothing is in our own power.
8. Live Love : This is one of my favorite scriptures. In fact, it’s probably #1, top of the list! 1Corinthians 13: 4-8 (NIV);
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.